Direct message bug?

Hi Wilfried Rijsemus (3sides) 

It's possible that this setting is configured at the site level by the admins, but individual users can override it in their own settings.

To check this, go to your avatar → Settings, then scroll down to the messaging permissions section — you'll see an option allowing users to receive DMs from non-friends if they've enabled it.

Additionally, admins can override this on a per-member basis via the admin panel:
Admin → Membership → Members → [Select Member] → Settings tab.

So, what you're seeing might not be a bug — just a case where either you or the other user have that setting adjusted.

Ik know. I tested in one of my environments. The default there was Friends Only. Also the recipient had: Friends Only, Yet, I was able to message this person without being a friend. Lemme double check that. Imho if a member has set "Friends Only"  then none other than an admin should be able to do that. Speaking of which...that may just be the clue I was looking for...:-)

Wilfried Rijsemus (3sides) said:

Imho if a member has set "Friends Only"  then none other than an admin should be able to do that.

Wilfried Rijsemus (3sides) Any chance the person wasn't an admin, but had a "Manage Membership" permission applied in one of their roles? I think that supersedes the friendship option, too, but I haven't tested. 

Yes it was....my bad....thx for the help y'all..